“This is my year,” I told myself as 2019 wound down.

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This was the year I was finally going after my dream of traveling the world and working remotely. Living wild, free and with purpose.

I’d been planning this move for two years and was done with waiting.

In the last couple of months, I’ve taken some giant leaps…

I broke up with my committed boyfriend. Quit my stable but boring job. Sold my belongings and worldly possessions; I didn’t need them anymore.

I made plans to fly to Bali, April 2020. Little did anyone know, a pandemic had plans to make 2020 its year instead.

Rather than blogging on the…


fall leaves along a road
fall leaves along a road

Does fall make you mournful?

Don’t hate me for saying this, but each fall I feel like I’m dying.

All the year’s perfect plans, brave ideas and ego-filled beliefs fall away like leaves on a tree. Time is finite, and these physical forms don’t last forever.

Yet, through this season I insist on hanging on, refusing to let go or fall away. For me, death is never without suffering first.

Maybe you too have been holding on to what’s weighing you down. Refusing to let go and struggling under a dead weight.

With the arrival of Scorpio season, the sign…


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Self-love is more than just looking in the mirror and being satisfied.

How you feel about yourself shows. Self-love is displayed in how we dress, show ourselves to the world, and how we respond to conflict. Our feelings towards ourselves manifest into toxic relationships, addictions, and repeatedly working for bullies.

Simply put, when you don’t love yourself, you don’t feel good.

According to Psychology Today’s 7 Step Prescription for Self Love, everyone needs:

  • Nutrition
  • Exercise
  • Sleep
  • Intimacy
  • Social Interaction

Coronavirus has disrupted almost every one of these needs. For singles living alone, intimacy and having social life have been particularly…


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One of the best-kept secrets to growing a big, engaged audience is podcasting. But having the time to plan, record and edit a podcast every week is no small feat. If you lack the time to create a podcast yourself, you can still reap the benefits of podcasting by guest-speaking.

Being a guest on a podcast comes with the benefit of speaking to an audience of active listeners. And you don’t have the trouble of building the audience yourself. Instead, you have the potential to gain new fans, demonstrate your expertise and sharpen your public speaking skills.

How stinkin’ awesome…


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In case you missed it, this is the second part of a two-part series showing you how to find and pitch the perfect podcast.

Now you know how to identify a podcast whose audience would benefit from your knowledge. And you’re confident that speaking on the show will make others better in some way.

Now’s for the fun part: actually pitching your episode!

The time has come to illustrate you’ve done your homework on the show. Plus, being able to give genuine compliments goes a long way.

When crafting your email pitch, it’s important you demonstrate you know what the…


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Can you fix an insecure attachment style?

The flaxen boy and I had been sleeping together for weeks when he disappeared.

The day he went missing, we spent at the lake. It was one ripped from a romance novel spent fooling around, listening to frogs and kissing inside a canoe as the humidity rose up around us.

Afterward, he dropped me off home, fixed me with a grin and told me he couldn’t wait to share another day like the one we’d just had.

He backed out onto my street and I never saw him again.

I was ghosted. Again.

Had I imagined the wonderful times we’d…


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You’ve probably heard the old adage you must give to receive. If applied to online selling, you must give something to get money in return. Most companies today have some semblance of a content marketing strategy in order to exchange knowledge for purchases. Those who give nothing, sell nothing.

Good content attracts qualified prospects, creates awareness of your products and services, engages on topics your ideal buyers care about, and moves them closer to a purchase.

Too bad there isn’t an easy button for content creation. Am I right?

Not only do you need to invest time and effort into…


Steph Jouppien black and white
Steph Jouppien black and white

Hey, it’s me

The girl who broke your heart and made you feel unworthy and unloved. The one who hid feelings and withheld affection when all you wanted to do was love me.

You see, before I left, I thought you were standing in the way of my dreams. I figured there was more to life I was missing. We talked about it. You tried to love me out of it. But I turned away and left.

But did I really leave?

Why were you still responding to my calls and texts? You know, the little jokes that were ours…


womens blurred face
womens blurred face
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If you’ve ever been labeled the ‘crazy ex’ before, chances are you’re not actually crazy, you survived an unhealthy relationship.

Not a single person on earth wants to be known as the crazy ex. The title lends itself to feelings of regret over your actions and disfigures self-esteem as you seek new relationships. Yet, as poor behaviour surfaces during relationship drama or post-breakup, most women tend to feel they’ve won the title.

Seth Meyers Psy.D., expresses how women tend to become targets of this negative title more often than men. This is because society views becoming emotional when upset or…


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Settling is accepting something you consider less than satisfactory. An agreement to something below your typical expectations or standards. Setting for someone carries a negative connotation, meaning the person you’ve chosen, is below par and you’ve resigned to this fact.

In the English language, the word settle has other, more positive meanings, too. To settle in is to find comfort; to settle a bill is to finalize business; and, to end two sides of a dispute is to settle a matter.

Like the fairytale endings where a dragon is slain and evil defeated, settling down in life, is to live…

Steph Jouppien

Horrible at relationships, so I write about them on the internet. Come on baby, make it hurt so good. hello@stephjouppien.com

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