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How You Can Tell If Someone Really Loves You Or Is Just Settling
Settling is accepting something you consider less than satisfactory. An agreement to something below your typical expectations or standards. Setting for someone carries a negative connotation, meaning the person you’ve chosen, is below par and you’ve resigned to this fact.
In the English language, the word settle has other, more positive meanings, too. To settle in is to find comfort; to settle a bill is to finalize business; and, to end two sides of a dispute is to settle a matter.
Like the fairytale endings where a dragon is slain and evil defeated, settling down in life, is to live a quieter, more level existence. It is to remain in familiar territory; a consistency with little surprise or spontaneity thereafter.
To be in love… to settle… they are just words. And like the words you choose, they inhabit the emotion you give them. So how can you tell if someone really loves you or is simply settling with you? Settling doesn’t happen, it’s a choice.
We all know the unstoppable rush that comes with falling in love. It’s an enigma pulling, overtaking and consuming us: mind, body and spirit. Falling in love is effortless.
When reciprocated, a new romance blooms. Like the petals on a rose, beauty opens and displays itself to us. We see…
